Monday, March 12, 2012

FB "Friends": Schadenfreude Friends or Pretentious Social Show-offs

This video was anemically narrated, but what the heck!

Just to balance things out here:

I have always marveled at the existence of "friends" who seem to exist like vacuums of Likes, who are incapable of reciprocating the gestures (as if they were there to pose to the world and shout out, "Look at me!"). I do, however, wonder at what point does it become an exercise of showing-off or an innocent way of compiling personal memories (generously shared), especially when these people have classified their "friends" as those eligible to take a peek at their private lives.

Are they somehow afraid that they have to keep-up with their reputations, their social value? What kind of monsters are they afraid of among their so called "friends"?

If this isn't a microcosm of what the Cold War was, then I don't know what is. More so is this ironic, that I'm alluding to the Cold War in a paragraph about friendship through a social networking website called Facebook. The tragedy here of course is the paranoia suffered by both the observer and the observed.

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We can interpret the underlying meaning and agendum behind peoples' posts, but as observers we are also exposed to "insecurity" when we over-think their intentions. I believe we are susceptible to reacting and viewing things as acts of insecurity if we allow ourselves to play into the hand of the "insecurity game". Juxtaposing our lives with others' is already a nod to joining the "social status race" game that users of Facebook most often misconstrue it to be.

It should already be a premise for any user that the cards in life aren't dealt fairly, nor based on our personal preferences and wishes. Damn it, I wish I was a billionaire! Any ill will toward the success of others or this schadenfreude phenomenon might be unavoidable, but we can arm ourselves with the understanding and insight that allows us to see things maturely.

Too often have I been exposed to office gossip, back-talk, back-$#it talk, and backstabbing and because I am not one to snitch on people, I have simply opted to shut the negativity out. This comes at a price though, because you are more likely to isolate yourself and portray yourself as the snob.

This basically translates to the Facebook experience and I for one advocate to staying true to what being a friend is and how a friend would actually interact in real life (and no random stranger friend requests please). I personally weed out my friends list once in a while to check on acquaintances and "friends" who were in fact added for etiquette's sake, but aren't really the friends "worth keeping". It's a healthy catharsis actually. Also, I really appreciate friends who post fun, entertaining stuff, and the occasional points to ponder on. These are after all what I’d imagine a time spent in personal interaction would be, goofing off, sharing laughs, and ideas. What the hell is up with all the showmanship anyway?!

On a lighter note on isolationism, here's Ryan Higa (nigahiga):

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